Um, Okay. That's Fair, Right?

I pay 50% of our bills. And yet I'm expected to do 90% of the housework, 80% of the cooking, and take care of Taryn 95% of the time I'm not in work.

That's really adds up to an equal division of labor.

Hoo-rah for all of you who have partners who do their fair share, and excuse me for bitching that I don't have one. It's easy to tell me to lay off or give P a break but I'm sure if you were in my shoes, you wouldn't be so laid-back about his laziness. And I'm all for people needing a break, but since when is watching 2 full-length movies in a day and cleaning the bathroom reason to go to bed early?

I read an email once about how when a mother says she's going to bed, first she folds the rest of the laundry, does the dishes, makes everyone's lunches for the next day, etc ... and when a man says he's going to bed, he peels his fat ass off the couch and goes to sleep.

I think if maybe he was always like this, it'd be easier to accept the fact that he's a lazy bum, but he used to help me more. I think he'g gotten it into his head that the Nanny is his personal butler-ess, and now he can be a fat-ter lazy-er slob and what? Because we pay someone to watch the baby, she's supposed to clean up after him too? Unfortunately for her, she does, and I'm jusy furious right now that he is acting like such an asshole. Complaining like I'm some evil nagging bitch for asking him to wash his dish in the sink while I take the dogs out to poop ... at 11pm.

I don't mind doing the womanly chores, watching the baby, cooking, dishes, laundry, but doesn't that mean he should then be doing the manly chores, like cleaning up after the dogs, and taking out the trash without being asked?

Really. I'm just so damn frustrated right now. Tomorrow I'll be fine. Tomorrow I'll scheme on how to make him realize how much I do around the house, but it won't stick. Because the truth of the matter is, he'd rather be nagged than to be responsible.

If it bothered him so much, he'd take care of his shit without me making a comment. If I don't want people telling me anything, I do what I need to before if can be brought up. I think for him it's comforting, to think that he doesn't have to take full responsibility for himself. That he can be a child, even though he's grown. And I have to admit too that I'd rather bitch at him than enable him. I'm not going to do everything for him so that he can be lazy. It's not my job to infantize him, and I may break his balls to get him to do something, even when he doesn't feel like he should, but at least it gets done.

We're comfortable in our roles, if not completey satisfied, and I blame it all on him being lazy, he blames it all on me being a nag, and fuck it all if we actually got some sort of resolution out of it.

What a dork I am. I'm sitting here picturing us in our old age, with the kids grown and married, all the grandkids running around out front. He's sitting on the porch drinking a beer watching them play and I'm inside yelling at him to take the garbage out because its full. He's out on the porch rolling his eyes at our son and sons-in-law, while I'm in the kitchen with our daughters and daughter-in-law bitching that hes always been lazy, and some things never change.

*sigh*

Maybe I'll get him some hearing aides for his birthday this year.